Are You Considering Adoption?

Are you thinking about adopting? There are thousands of children placed with adoptive parents every year in the U.S. and other countries, so you're not alone.

Adoption can provide a very special connection between a child and his or her adoptive parents. However, there are often sad circumstances surrounding adoptions. Some adoptive parents have been struggling for years to conceive a child only to deal with the heartbreak of infertility or miscarriage. Many children needing adoption have special needs including physical impairments or a history of abuse or neglect.

A sizable portion of adoptions take place amongst relatives or by step parents. Whatever the reason you are considering adoption, be prepared that for all the joys there are also difficulties ahead. Your adopted child needs you to be prepared and eager to create a new family. Ask yourself these questions as a means of determining your readiness for adoption:

- Why are you considering adoption? Are you hoping to save a marriage or fit in with friends who have children? Or are you committed to the idea of parenting regardless of how your life may change in the future?

- Can you handle the idea of not being genetically related to your child? Do you think it may impact your relationship with them? What if you eventually have genetic children of your own, will you still feel as committed to an adopted child?

- Are you able to handle the adoption process? The interviewing and waiting process can be daunting. There may be age restrictions or other concerns that affect your ability to adopt easily. What if you cannot adopt an infant? What if the child is from a different culture, race or country?

- Have you done research on special needs or transracial adoption? Could you handle the financial costs of a child with disabilities? Would you make lifestyle changes for a transracial adoption to help them feel comfortable and build self-esteem?

- Is parenting an adoptive child important to you? Have you always wanted to adopt or are you only recently considering the idea of adoption? Have you spoken to adoptive parents, known someone who was adopted or sought out information and advice about adopting?

The adoption process can sometimes be a trial, but the experience of adopting can be the most rewarding of your life. Continue to learn more about adoption, the process, cost and options available. Surrounding yourself with people who support your efforts will go a long way towards finding your adoptive child and helping him or her become part of your family.